To see.

When you see someone down a path of self sabatoge, what do you do? In my case, when I see Poms about to fall off the bed, I give her a little nudge. 

Ok, so then mom yells at me, but it's worth it. 

After years of expressing her reflections to a range of different people spanning a multitude of different issues, she has realized that the truth hurts, and most times, people absolutely DO NOT want to hear it.

Mom doesn't either sometimes, to be honest. We all need to reach our own introspection on our own time...and many people just simply aren't ready. And that's ok! So often, we just want to see their pain disappear, but holding on to that pain isn't our choice to make. 

All you can do is lead by example, love freely, and hope they find personal happiness within themselves before this short lifetime comes to and end. 

And also know when it's time to let go. Let go of needing to be right, to prove a point, to win...it's all alienating. 

What will be, will be, and it doesn't mean you have to be around it. You have a choice...

Let people be who they are, accepting them fully...

Sit in a holding pattern, waiting for something to change (when it probably won't)...

Or move on without them. 

Mom thinks it may be time to move on.

But first she will enjoy her kid free breakfast after a week of two very sick babies! Life is pretty darn good.